I think failure should be met with an impartial attitude. Here's my reasoning. When somebody fails, and they're overly dramatic about it, acting as if it was their whole life, how stupid will they feel when they've finally gotten over it and when the realize they've spent a whole week or a month or three just complaining over something that happened forever ago? At the same time, if they act like they're a better person and there's more things out there for them, deliberately setting higher standards for themselves and acting as if whatever they failed at was something minor, they're lying not only to everybody around them, but they'll eventually believe it themselves and then everything will just be way screwed up. There's no use setting higher standards just to spite a past failure. Standards should be set for a day to satisfy the day.

I think success should be met with the same impartiality. The person who dwells on it can't boast about any other success until they've reached the next one, and often that next success is a good long while away. So they are happy with the first success, waiting for the next one to creep up while at the same time, everyone around them is getting tired of the gloating and sucking up to higher bodies because there's a feeling of being special because of a little five-minute recognition. At the same time, if the success is seen as just a piece of paper or a random life they'll never see again, the successor is selling himself or herself seriously short because it was something achieved, and lacking emotion for it can be degrading emotionally. The person feels worthless even though there are successes they aren't considering. Success is to be celebrated for a day, but worked toward, not waited for.

I'm setting rules for myself.